Is Your Relationship Healthy

A healthy relationship is what we all want, someone who we can enjoy life with and grow old together. A healthy relationship is not something that comes automatically, it is a work in progress that grows richer with each passing year. The health of a relationship can be judged by a great many factors such as trust, honesty and vulnerability. A healthy relationship requires a high level of communication and co-operation between partners, not everyone is willing to commit to this, those that do enjoy happy, fulfilling relationships. So, is your relationship healthy?

Whilst opposites do attract and can probably result in some wonderful relationships, the ones that tend to stand the test of time are those where the partners have something in common. This could be shared interests, similar beliefs or anything that gives them common ground on which they can build. If you do not anything in common then find activities that you can both enjoy and share together.

There are some dark relationships which are decidedly unhealthy. These are where one partner is a victim of emotional or physical abuse. In both cases it is difficult for the victim to break free because the abuser makes them dependent on them. If you know someone who is in an abusive relationship then please try and help them break free.

If you do not communicate then you do not just have an unhealthy relationship, it is debatable whether you have a relationship at all. If your relationship is a healthy one you will share thoughts, ideas, emotions, your lives. You both have wants and needs from the relationship so you need to be able to communicate these to your partner, otherwise, how will they know? You have to listen to each other when they talk, what they are saying is important to them, so it should be even more important to you. It does not matter if you do not agree with what they are saying, whilst they are talking you need to give the the respect that they are due and listen without interruption.

Each of you may be separate individuals but you are both equal halves of the relationship with an equal responsibility to make it work. If there is something that needs doing you should just do it without thought for praise or reward. Is your relationship healthy? It is if you are working together as a team to do what is best for your relationship. Do not think about what is best for you the individual, think about what is best for us and how the relationship can be further enhanced.

If you have a partner who is always criticizing you in private or public, trying to blame you for everything, and maybe even making you believe that you are to blame then strongly consider calling time on the relationship. In a healthy relationship, your partner is there to support you and give you the respect that you deserve. If you make a mistake or in the heat of the moment if you say something hurtful then you take responsibility for your actions and apologise. The chances are that when a problem arises that you have probably both share the blame, if you partner is unable to take responsibility for their actions why should you take all the blame?

No matter how perfect your relationship you will find yourself in conflict with your partner. This does not mean that you do not like them, it simply means that you both have a significant difference of opinion. Conflict can make or break a relationship depending on how you deal with it. In an unhealthy relationship you might ignore problems and let them spiral out of control, on the other hand you might indulge in screaming matches that leave you feeling drained and dispirited and doing nothing to resolve your problems. If you take the healthy relationship route, you will both site down and calmly and rationally work your ways through your problems, looking to find a solution or compromise that you are BOTH happy with.

Is your relationship healthy? If you love and respect your partner, and let them know it in word and deed. If you feel valued at all levels within your relationship. If you love your partner for the unique individual that they are and do not try to change them. If you share your thoughts, hopes, dreams and emotions. If you spend quality time doing things together, enjoying each others company and having fun. If your relationship brings you happiness and joy. Then my friend, you have a healthy relationship.

Being a student of life I thought it about time to get my ideas down in the hope that they will help people with whatever difficulties they are facing. If you want to read further help and guidance in dealing with relationship problems then my site might be able to help. Whatever your situation I wish you luck.